25th December, 2007
True Support
There are times when people we love hit a rough patch. As a result, their behavior totally changes. Our initial reaction, our impulse, tells us to get upset.. not to accept the change or the way they distance themselves, lie, or even deceive us.
When someone you love is going through a difficult time, it’s important to check your emotions at the door in order to help them. It doesn’t matter how what’s happening makes you feel. You’re not the one dealing with this situation. What matters, is that the person you care about is in trouble. Focus on them, their problem, and how you can help them out.. even if it means leaving them alone to sort things out.
When you want to support someone, you should do it wholeheartedly.. or not at all.
Posted at 10:47 am |
chikapappi said:
love is not just a feeling, it has to be set on right decisions… it’s too risky for us girls most
December 25, 2007 at 11:39 am
ammaro.com said:
you know, thats something that doesnt occur to us; humans arent really sensitive enough to ask whats wrong rather that point the finger and blame instead. beautiful advice; thanks
December 25, 2007 at 12:59 pm
Fonzy said:
spoken like a true friend
not many of those these days 
December 26, 2007 at 3:17 pm
MSB said:
chikapappi: i’m not talking about relationships.. i’m talking in general, whether it be friendship, family, or more.. but with regards to love, yes i agree.. it’s too risky!
Fonzy: thanks.. and you’re absolutely right!
December 26, 2007 at 3:26 pm
fadidra said:
“you are someone to the world, but you are the whole world for someone” *sigh*
but regardless, sometimes you have to take you’r chances, take a risk and make a change. sometimes things surprise you!
December 26, 2007 at 7:10 pm
MSB said:
fadidra: i agree.. sometimes we need to make changes, but it’s always best to change ourselves instead of trying to change others!
December 28, 2007 at 10:10 pm
Touché said:
It’s a matter of a real mutual understanding. And it takes great depth of experience to isolate one’s reactions when giving support.
To be fortunate to have someone who knows how to listen, how to support, how to help and act according to your critical emotional needs is a true blessing.
December 29, 2007 at 3:58 am
MSB said:
Touche: I agree. It’s definitely difficult to isolate emotion from reaction/support. and it definitely is a blessing to find someone who would be there for you, truly, through thick and thin!
December 29, 2007 at 9:08 am
Marzouq said:
It is always difficult to separate reason from your emotions or setting your emotions aside, but when its for someone you care about then you just have to!
December 31, 2007 at 9:27 am
MSB said:
ammaro: your comment was tagged as spam! :/ just found it: thanks.. and yes, it’s always easier to point fingers!
Marzouq: exactly!
January 2, 2008 at 11:03 am