25th November, 2007
Once Upon a Long Ago..
Once upon a time, men and women got married and stayed together forever, through thick and thin. Nowadays, marriage has become nothing more than legalized dating in the sense that it’s no longer permanent.. it’s just a piece of paper, easily torn apart and easily replaced.
With the many changes to the way we live our lives today, ‘ever after’ has been replaced with ‘for now’.
Call me a cynic if you will, but I don’t believe in ‘I love you so much, I would die without you!” You won’t die without them and with time, you’ll get over it. What I do believe in is mutual respect and decency. That will carry you a lot further than love ever will.
Posted at 10:06 am |
N. said:
I’d love to hear what the married people have to say about this. Good Morning!
November 25, 2007 at 10:15 am
Blue Dress said:
Ahhh i totally agree with YOU! waii3
its sucks really… do you think this can be changed….
November 25, 2007 at 10:17 am
MSB said:
N: I’d love to hear from them too.. and they can post anonymously if that means they’ll be 100% honest. Granted, I know this doesn’t apply to all. I’m just talking about the big majority out there! People no longer approach marriage with the right mentality and attitude.
Saba7 El khairat!
Blue Dress:
I think our lives have “evolved” too much for things to change. However, if there are enough ‘good people’ out there that they can re-instill faith into this institution, then we’ll be good.
November 25, 2007 at 10:21 am
Marzouq said:
Friendship also goes a long way, and then there is mutual respect and understanding. If it isn’t like that from the start then they won’t survive the rough patches then it won’t really work out.
November 25, 2007 at 10:44 am
MSB said:
Marzouq: definitely. i always think it’s better to enter into a marriage out of friendship rather than love. i feel ‘love’ distorts reality whereas friendship has already built a strong foundation that enhances the chances of survival in the long run.
November 25, 2007 at 11:01 am
ammaro.com said:
9ara7a love is a myth. its a temporary feeling that dies out with time. and yes, like you said, decency and mutual respect, as well as understanding and communication are much more important.
love always dies out.
November 25, 2007 at 4:26 pm
chikapappi said:
Well, I do still have hopes for the fairytale kinda love & happy ending.. it’s just that people make wrong decisions sometimes
November 25, 2007 at 7:19 pm
moon-light7 said:
OMG, u think love is a myth and it doesn’t last!!!
I believe in love, but it’s the perception of love that differs from one person to the other. If you see that it’s the mutual respect and frienship, then that’s love 4 you. After all, it’s not only about strong feelings and sensuality! and it’s definitely not something u can express with words.
November 25, 2007 at 10:01 pm
MSB said:
ammaro: i wouldn’t go as far as calling it a myth, i just think a lot of people base decisions on it when they shouldnt.. and i agree, the ‘type’ of love eventually changes and sometimes in marriages, it changes from ‘love’ to 3eshra… guess it all depends on ur definition of ‘love’ at the end of the day.
chikapappi: love does exist.. i just dont think people should put all their hopes on it and think that it’s the ultimate goal in life..
moon-light7: i agree with u.. and that’s pretty much what i was trying to say to ammaro, but i guess u said it better..
November 25, 2007 at 10:10 pm
Hopeless Poet said:
It is like an open market isn’t it? One get married and soon get bored and wants to eat another fruit
November 26, 2007 at 11:01 am
MSB said:
Hopeless Poet: it’s sad.. if they’re not up to it, why get married in the first place? to me, marriage is as serious as 7ejab. you either fully commit to it, or you dont!
November 26, 2007 at 11:27 am
joud said:
it all goes hand in hand: love, respect, chemistry, friendship
a lot of times u find one but not the other, but without all elements there a relationship is doomed
November 26, 2007 at 2:05 pm
MSB said:
joud: yes, it goes hand in hand.. but if i had to choose 1 trait that wasnt a must before marriage and that could be acquired with time, i would say love!
November 27, 2007 at 8:24 am
ammaro.com said:
im talking about the “ever lasting im gonna love you forever and ever, ill love you for a lifetime” stuff. thats not real. do you know how long a lifetime is? its a long bleedin time! your idea of everything changes!
November 27, 2007 at 7:00 pm
MSB said:
ammaro: well in that case, yes.. we’re on the same page!
November 27, 2007 at 7:24 pm