24th September, 2007
We’re Not in Kansas Anymore..
So if someone encourages me to be more bold and brave.. yet they admit that they are an “incorrigible coward”.. should I heed their advice? Or should I ask them to lead by example first?
Posted at 12:04 pm |
chikapappi said:
Hehehe… let them “lead” for a change
I hate how people do that to me..
September 24, 2007 at 1:53 pm
ammaro.com said:
some people have a lot of good advice; they might have gotten it from others, or from common sense, and so on, but they themselves might not have the courage or strength to follow it.
consider it this way, you got the advice, use it for your benefit! doesnt matter whether theyre going to use it or not.
September 24, 2007 at 1:59 pm
Blue Dress said:
Why lead it wont do you any goood!
You take the advice and run with it, doesnt matter whats the personality of the giver!
Ayy… Good luck
September 24, 2007 at 2:14 pm
N. said:
I agree with Ammar, keep the advice handy it may be useful. If its a “you go first” “no you go first” thing, then allow them to lead by example. Unless you’d like to dominate the situation, and be brave and smart at the same time. Bravery, without genius, can be dangerous.
September 24, 2007 at 2:16 pm
MSB said:
chikapappi: i think i should wait for them to take the lead first too!
ammaro: but dont u think u lose a bit of credibility in that scenario? “dont worry.. the dog wont bite” as you stand behind the fence encouraging me to take a step forward!
September 24, 2007 at 2:17 pm
MSB said:
Blue Dress: you think so? what if you’re not 100% convinced with the advice or have another take on it?
N.: i guess sometimes it also depends on one’s definition of ‘bravery’
what some may consider brave, others may consider reckless!
September 24, 2007 at 2:20 pm
Ammar said:
well, if the advice doesnt make sense, then you know not to use it :p do you need help with a specific issue ?
September 24, 2007 at 4:22 pm
MSB said:
Ammar: la it’s nothing like that.. it’s not that i’m in a bind and someone is giving me advice… it’s more like someone is recommending i do something..
toughest part though is when you cant even reach the person who gave the recommendation in order to discuss it with them
guess i just have to take it at face value and see if it makes sense for me to follow or not.
September 24, 2007 at 5:17 pm
ammaro.com said:
you can discuss it with us!
September 24, 2007 at 9:20 pm
Blue Dress said:
Sue them!
Sorry its 3 AM ;p
September 25, 2007 at 2:33 am
eshda3wa said:
u should tel em to shush! and not be hypocrites
September 25, 2007 at 8:39 am
MSB said:
ammaro: hence the post!
Blue Dress: haha time for u to get more sleep (and me!!)
eshda3wa: la 7aram.. i know they mean well.. and are just giving me an insight on what they see/think..
i guess this post is just my way of bouncing my thoughts off u guys and to get the mesg across to my ‘friend’ since this is the best method to communicate at the moment.
September 25, 2007 at 9:29 am
ammaro.com said:
well, this isn’t a discussion with us since you didn’t tell us the whole story yet :p
September 25, 2007 at 11:22 am
June said:
Hmm but see the thing is, how do you judge whether it’s good advice or bad advice? I would assume based on other people having applied said advice and getting positive results, right? Therefore, if you have not seen such advice operate positively (be it with the advice-giver or anyone else), how could you heed it or even judge it to be “good” advice? Am I making sense? Therefore, your judgement as to whether a certain piece of advice, if not backed by evidence, is purely the result of your own thought process or personal bias. In conclusion, the outcome of my blurb is that whether they lead by example or not, to hell with people. They all suck. You’re always gonna make your own mind up. You take your own advice and to be honest, I haven’t met anyone who gives better advice than you anyway so you’re in good hands if you do that
September 25, 2007 at 7:25 pm
June said:
Wow definitely my longest comment ever.
September 25, 2007 at 7:25 pm
MSB said:
ammaro: i know.. but giving more details defeats the purpose
June: you’ve been in law school too long!
thanks for the compliment dear..
just for clarification, no one should read too deeply into this post.. but from the comments I’ve received I can see I’m not the only one who over analyzes and requires lots of details before proceeding. Thanks to those who’ve given me their feedback.
September 25, 2007 at 7:51 pm
clumsy said:
I heard a wise person once say, “Life is challenge…. Meet it. Life is gift… Accept it. Life is adventure… Dare it. Life is game… Play it. Life is mystery… Unfold it. Life is song… Sing it. Life is Journey… Complete it.”
Life (like Kansas) is a story, tell it.
September 26, 2007 at 12:04 pm
MSB said:
clumsy: whoever said that is indeed wise
I like that, life is a story tell it.. but who do u tell it to? family? friends? neighbors? strangers?
Rice-A-Roni: well.. it’s not really a plea. more like a statement.. and in case the statement wasn’t clear, here goes: how else was i supposed to negotiate with u?
September 26, 2007 at 12:15 pm
clumsy said:
i’ve found it’s a lot easier to open-up to complete strangers than to people you already know… who (by nature of the relationship) cannot be objective or unbiased. and may not even have the time.
you have a captive audience here, the lights are dim and there is an eery silence in the auditorium. all eyes are on a solitary figure fidgeting nervously on the stage, tapping her shoes. a baby’s cry can be heard from the back. the night is only so long.
September 27, 2007 at 7:33 am
Hitman1 said:
Take the advice
Some people know they can’t lead and look for the strong ones to lead them.
September 28, 2007 at 4:36 pm
MSB said:
clumsy: true.. sometimes it IS easier to open up to strangers.. speaking of which, what’s ur blog url?
Hitman1: good point..
September 28, 2007 at 6:37 pm
Ammar said:
well, youll never know unless you try, so just go for it.
September 29, 2007 at 2:47 pm
MSB said:
Ammar: in due time, inshAllah.. thanks
September 30, 2007 at 1:36 am
MSB said:
clumsy: it’s called being sarcastic!
didn’t think u had a blog..
chief cloudy: u definitely not only sound like someone i know, but like someone i’ve written about in my blog many times!
best of luck to you!
September 30, 2007 at 9:42 am
Darabeel said:
Take the advise analyze it and see it makes any sense follow it, the person doesn’t have to be a role modem to listen to his advise, and as the arabic saying goes: خذ الحكمة من لأفواه المجانين
October 1, 2007 at 10:40 am
MSB said:
Darabeel: true
thanks..
October 1, 2007 at 11:04 am